Wednesday, October 21, 2015


by Abeni Bamidele

Is it ever acceptable to use the word "hate"? I sure hope so as I must use this word with fervor as I am speaking to you right now.

I hate indecisiveness. No if's, and's or but's about it. I can't stand indecisiveness. I tend to run quickly away from those who can't make a decision to save their lives. Before I speak further on the issue, let's break down its meaning first shall we?


  1. 1.
    not settling an issue.
     2. (of a person) not having or showing the ability to make decisions quickly and effectively.

A few synonyms to coincide: 


I didn't make these up. I found these perfect descriptions of "indecisive" on

Man endlessly pondering with no resolve....

So what can be said for the person who aimlessly ponders and is indecisive? Why can't they make up their mind? Or why do they make a decision, then quickly change their minds, only to revert back to the initial decision? What's wrong with them???!!

I recently had a male customer who could not make up his mind as to what he wanted to purchase. Yessss I specified male only because many assume that it is only women who torment others with their indecisiveness, but do this too! He went back and forth, asking a series of questions which I actually encourage customers to do. HOWEVER, after giving so much time and attention, I'm looking for some decisions to be made!

At any rate, the customer made a purchase of jewelry, then quickly changed his mind and asked for a refund. (No problem I thought.) While quite annoying, as I would prefer to have the sale, we are entitled to change our minds, so I refunded him without hesitation. Needless to say, an hour later he kept selecting and changing his mind, selecting, then changing his mind, selecting..........................then changing his mind.

"To endlessly ponder without decision, leaves one in a state of eternal stagnation."

What turmoil, I thought. To endlessly ponder without decision, leaves one in a state of eternal stagnation. So what could potentially cause one to never be able to make decisions? Well, I am going to speculate, as I do not profess to be a subject matter expert in indecision.

Top 3 Causes Of Indecisiveness

From my perspective:

1. FEAR of the unknown may cause one to be hesitant in making sound decisions.

2. INSECURITY due to a lack of encouragement overtime, can make a person think that their decisions may not have a good result.

3. INFERIORITY can unfortunately creep up, when one lacks opportunity to take on a leadership role in some capacity. The person may feel more comfortable having someone else making decisions for them.

There are a host of additional causes of this state of being, however time does not permit to perseverate on this topic.

I think you know by now that I wouldn't talk about a problem unless I offered a solution; or at least lead you to information regarding potential solutions. So here is one point of reference from online magazine Healthline:

Making decisions are paramount to our growth, even when we make bad ones. We are well-respected and should feel better about ourselves when we demonstrate that we are comfortable in the decisions we make.

Go Ahead And Click The Orange Button...It's Okay. Don't Be Indecisive: