Thursday, October 22, 2015

Somebody Likes My Stuff!

by Abeni Bamidele

Does the title grab you? It should, just as much as when a confident woman walks in the room and captivates what soon becomes her audience. Some would think it was vein for one to take interest in such a thing, yet those who "hate" just may silently wish they exuded the same level of confidence. 

Now confidence isn't something that is grown over night. The most beautiful of beautiful people can walk with their heads down in shame and inferiority if they fail to develop some very key components that cultivate self-awareness and self-assuredness. Let me also say that the type of confidence I speak of, does not come from validation through other's point of view. However, it doesn't hurt to have the "like" button hit from time to time on social media. Well that's what it's for...right?

So I was checking out an archived article on Madomnoire where author Erica Williams speaks on the the 5 Habits of a Confident Woman. Here they are:

             5 Habits Of A Confident Woman

1. Define Yourself
Don’t let others determine how you feel about yourself nor allow society to tell you what you can and cannot do. Tap into your inner voice and write your own rules for your life. If you’re writing your own rules you don’t have to worry about succumbing to someone else’s.
2. Know Your Strengths & Use Them
Make a list of all the things that you’re good at or the characteristics that you love about yourself. Then make sure you’re not letting your skills go to waste by actually using them.  And display the characteristics you love about yourself as often as you can. If you’re funny, use it to your advantage.
3. Always Dress the Part
So you just don’t feel like putting a 100% into your appearance? I completely understand. We all have those days when we want to just roll out of bed and head straight to work, wild hair and all. But remember confidence is never tacky. I would love to believe that people don’t care about your outer appearance, but that is far from the truth. The reality is people judge you based on what you’re wearing. So always ask yourself ‘what message am I trying to convey with my attire?’
4. Take Risks & Take Action
The only thing that comes to someone who stays in their comfort zone is what they already have. A confident woman wants the most out of life and pushes herself to be the best she can be. The only way to do this is to step out of your comfort zone and into something new.
5. Use Positive Affirmations
From the zillion twitter quotes to the sayings we’ve heard since we were kids, everyone loves to here a good quote for affirmation. And why not? Affirmations can help replace negative thoughts. Besides telling yourself how fabulous you are everyday, find affirmations that relate to some of your confidence issues. If you can’t find them, make up your own. The key is to zap a negative thought by replacing it with something positive.

Take the first steps to building your confidence. Guaranteed, it will put a smile on your face. And for all others who already exude this magical attribute...You work it girl!
Go Ahead And Click The Orange Button Below: ;-)